Are we always ALREADY listening?
Many of us might think we listen when someone else is talking to us, where in fact we are PRETENDING to be listening as our mind chatter takes over our presence.
An effective exercise that I have considered taking on board just recently to practice my listening skill is:
As I listen to someone, I also look for the voices in my head that constantly come on the way to interrupt me from having full presence for the person speaking. And as I spot for some of these distracting thoughts, I shut them down to regain full attention to the other person, and let me tell you that this is actually harder than what it sounds.
Personal Experience: This exercise revealed to me how much I actually DON’T listen because my inner mind chatter driven by judgements, fears, analysis and opinions filter out the true essence of what the other person is intending to say.
Listening is a crucial skill for building worthwhile connections with people at home, work, in a social environment, shops, streets etc…
Imagine you are sharing with someone, a goal you just have achieved with full excitement and they aren’t fully present with you. How would you feel?
Putting ourselves in someone else’s shoes could give us a taste of how it feels.
Patience and practice are keys to mastering our listening skill!